TEMPER TANTRUMS

 

Typical from ages 1- 3.5 years or when old enough to be sufficiently verbal.

 

Occurs when child has a desire but canít understand their physical, mental, emotional or social limitations.Child canít verbalize feelings of anger and frustration, and express feelings by screaming, crying, and body language.

 

 

2 TYPES:

 

SPILL OVER TANTRUMS

 

Prevention:Food, rest, stimulation, or sleep when needed.Watch for and prevent triggers.Change activity.Try and meet needs as soon as possible.

Handling:Stay with child.Use soft firm voice.Encourage deep breaths.

After:Wait for calm after storm.Again, try and meet needs for rest, food, etc. as soon as possible.Label childís emotions and give her the words to use so she develops a Feeling Vocabulary.

 

POWER STRUGGLE TANTRUMS

 

Prevention:Give lots of choices.Acknowledge feelings of unhappiness.Pick your battles wisely.

Handling:Ignore behaviour if the child is safe.Use soft firm voice.Do not give in to childís desire.

After:Wait for calm after storm.Acknowledge feelings with feeling words so she develops a Feeling Vocabulary.Carry on with scheduled activity.

 

 

General Tips:

 

Realize it is a normal behaviour Ė donít be embarrassed.

Older kids are not immune.

Make surroundings safe.

Avoid showing anger to childís anger which can escalate intensity.Stay calm.

 

 

Copyright May 1997, Judy Arnall.May not be reproduced without permission.††